Chad Perrin: SOB

5 May 2007

How do you decide what to eat?

Filed under: inanity — apotheon @ 03:50

It seems like every single day the SigO and I spend as much as half an hour cumulative time, sometimes broken up into five-minute segments scattered across an hour or two, debating what to have for dinner. This has become a major, ongoing problem for us. I guess we’re both just bad at figuring out what to have. I don’t think either of us had this much trouble deciding what we wanted before we met, but now, it’s a Thing. It’s a Thing that comes up pretty much every single day.

We can’t be the only people in the world with this problem — can we? Is it normal for the two of us to sit around musing about what to eat, with great difficulty coming up with more than one or two ideas — usually, ideas that appeal to neither of us? Does that ever happen to you, and does it happen often?

Is there a trick to this? Is the lack of inspiration for food choices indicative of clinical depression, even when we seem perfectly happy otherwise? I suppose we could medicate it with Ritalin, but there’s too much of that going on already.

I don’t know what it is. I just know that, once in a while, I find myself wishing I knew what I wanted for dinner — where “a while” is roughly equivalent to either twenty-four or forty-eight hours.

What am I going to have for dinner tonight?


  1. I wish I had a diet varied enough to have room to agonize over such decisions :p

    Comment by Mina — 5 May 2007 @ 07:10

  2. perhaps you’re both suppressing your real desires because you don’t want to be responsible for the other having a bad experience. something to think about.

    trying brainstorming the various possibilities and imagine yourself actually sitting down to try them. then if one actually interests you, say it. ’bout the best i can recommend.

    Comment by sosiouxme — 5 May 2007 @ 09:26

  3. Mina: Maybe that’s what’s going on. When single, I just ate the same things every single day except when the mood struck.

    sosiouxme: Yeah, it’s worth thinking about — and I’ll try the whole visualization thing, see if that works.

    Actually, it suddenly occurs to me that — for me, at least — the problem is likely more related to eating on a schedule. When I ate alone 98% of the time, I’d eat whenever I suddenly realized I wanted food, and when that happened I’d always want something specific. Now that I’m eating with someone basically every day, the ebb and flow of my interest in food doesn’t match up perfectly with the times that I actually eat, so I don’t have the specific cravings that help determine what I’m going to eat as often.

    Comment by apotheon — 5 May 2007 @ 09:42

  4. sushi is always a good standby!

    Comment by Justin M. Keyes — 6 May 2007 @ 02:16

  5. Sushi? No thanks. I’m not even interested in cooked fish most of the time, let alone raw.

    Now, if there was a Yoshinoya in my neighborhood, that would be a great addition to my menu.

    Comment by apotheon — 6 May 2007 @ 02:33

  6. You have a girlfriend? I must’ve either forgot or missed the memo blog entry.

    As for food consumption, there’s a place in Ft. Collins that serves the best pizza I’ve had outside of New Jersey at a pizzeria named Beau Jo’s.

    Comment by Joseph A Nagy Jr — 7 May 2007 @ 01:05

  7. Pets tend to get picky if you vary their diet, and I think people suffer from the same malady. If you just eat the same thing every day, it isn’t an issue. Then you can pop in a surprise from time to time for variety, but you don’t expect variety every day.

    I usually eat the same meals just about every day, and I like them.

    Comment by Sterling Camden — 7 May 2007 @ 03:18

  8. I love trying new things, but most of the time I’m content with the same-old same-old. I could eat ramen noodle soup for a year twice a day and never get bored of it.

    Comment by Joseph A Nagy Jr — 7 May 2007 @ 11:32

  9. Maybe part of the problem is that we’re always trying to come up with some variety — which I think is more her deal than mine, though I can’t really swear to it. A lot of the time, I’d be quite content to have cereal for dinner, truth be told. On the other hand, I really like Qdoba chicken queso burritos, maybe once a week or so. So, maybe it’s not so much a desire for variety as an expectation that we should desire variety.


    Comment by apotheon — 8 May 2007 @ 01:47

  10. We don’t have much of a ritual or routine for eating at home. I’ll fix whatever I feel like eating and ask my SigO if she wants some or vice versa. We rarely plan any meal or mealtime.

    Deciding what to eat isn’t difficult. I do my own grocery shopping and anything I bought that hasn’t expired will do. I frequently buy enough for both of us in case she wants something. I know her likes and dislikes well enough by now that I can guess.

    I could eat beef burritos everyday of the week and be all right. Variety is okay but it’s not essential.

    When it comes to going out to eat it’s more of an event than just sustenance. We can usually agree on what restaurant suits both our budget and our moods. I’m easy. As long as it’s not Chinese food I really don’t care.

    Comment by AlphabetSoup — 11 May 2007 @ 12:43

  11. I don’t recall seeing you around here, AlphabetSoup (appropriate name for a discussion of food). Welcome to the party, so to speak, and thanks for your input.

    Comment by apotheon — 13 May 2007 @ 09:15

  12. Michael Pollan’s book “Omnivore’s Dilemma” spends a few hundred pages seeking to answer this very question, “What do you want for dinner?” Globalized, exotic foods injected into our menus stifle our local economies and have ultimately changed our day-to-day diets; as in, there’s a reason asparagus tastes better as a seasonal product, and tastes like shit when it’s available “year ’round”.

    Anyway, I’m sure you meant something completely different by this entry, but that’s the way my mind ran with it.

    As for dinner, eat something grown in America. ANYTHING grown in America.

    Comment by Jessica — 11 June 2007 @ 01:00

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